What The Hell Is Mental Masturbation? Don’t Worry I Googled It For You

I do love setting goals.

After doing my 2022 self-reflection, I was getting all ready to put pen to paper and suss it all out, when I saw an Instagram post from @dr.stefan.gospodinov about Mental Masturbation. Yes, you read that right.

I was very cautious when I googled it, but when I did, I was surprised to find that it’s a common thing, a common thing that I wasn’t aware of, that I have been doing for years!!

So what is it you ask? Don’t worry, I won’t make you google it.

In a nutshell and to quote Dan Koe, Mental Masturbation is;

The process of raising dopamine in the brain by telling people your goals, plans, and how you want to change but never actually doing anything about it

And I for one am extremely guilty of this.

There is so much conflicting information out there and I always believed that by sharing my goals and intentions, I was keeping myself accountable, however, after reading this, I am not so sure.

I get really excited about setting goals. Each year/month/week I am going to be thinner, healthier or successful, sometimes all three if I’m in a good mood.

When I set my goals, I genuinely believe that I am going to eat salads every day, even though I hate them or go running three times a week, even though my knees can’t take it anymore.

Setting goals really does make me feel excited and over the years, setting “new years resolutions” has become the ultimate goal-setting task. A whole 12 months of goals right in front of me! I am practically squealing with delight. But, I always have 12 months ahead of me, so why am I waiting for January to come around?

I had already decided that I wasn’t getting sucked into the whole “new year, new me” rubbish, although I fully admit I am finding it hard not to get swept up in the excitement of it, but what about sharing my goals and intentions with people? I do that on a weekly basis. Maybe it’s time to try something different.

So here is my plan. I am going to fill in my Law of Attraction Planner when it arrives, its full of insightful questions that will help me find out what’s truly important to me. This self-reflection is key for me and I like to do it on a regular basis.

Instead of sharing what my intentions are for the coming week, I will share what they were for the previous week and how that went for me. That way, I am still sharing my intentions with you all, as that was one of the most popular posts in my survey results, but I also get to keep them to myself for a bit longer, giving myself time to actually assess and achieve them.

Will you be setting and sharing your goals for 2023? ♥️

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2023-01-05 12:04:00

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